Can women be pastors? I know that question is loaded. I know it makes people uncomfortable. And I know that depending on which church you attend or which circles you run in, you might already have a firm answer—one way or the other. I also know that for a long time, I had convinced myself I did too.
I grew up in an LCMS (Lutheran Church Missouri Synod) church, where the male-only pastorate was simply assumed; it was doctrine, it was practice, it was never really up for debate. So by the time I was twenty and started attending a large evangelical church, I carried that assumption with me. In my naivety, I figured everyone else did too.
What I didn’t realize walking through those doors in 1997 was that this church placed women in pastoral roles. Women who preached on Sunday mornings. Women with pastoral titles. It was the first time in my church history I had encountered that and instead of stopping to ask whether it was biblical, I reached for a rationale that felt reasonable at the time: as long as the head pastor was a man and he was in charge, the women serving under his authority must be okay. The church grew into a congregation of a couple thousand people over those years, and I stayed for most of them—from 1997 until around 2020—telling myself my reasoning held up.
And then, from 2012 to 2014, I relocated to Chicago and started attending a church where both the husband and wife served as lead and preaching pastors. Same rationale, higher stakes. He was still “the head pastor.” There was still male authority at the top. So it must still be okay, right?
I kept telling myself that. For years. And underneath it, there was a quiet, persistent voice that kept saying: something isn’t right here. I just didn’t know scripture well enough to name what it was. So I kept overriding it.
If you’ve ever been in that place: attending a church with women pastors, feeling a low-grade unease you can’t quite articulate, or finding yourself on the receiving end of someone else’s confident argument that women in pastoral ministry is completely biblical—this post is for you. Not to shame you. Not to make you feel less than. But to open the Word and look at what it actually says.
What the Text Says
The two passages that speak most directly to the question of whether women can be pastors are 1 Timothy 2:11-15 and Titus 1:5-9. Let’s look at them honestly.
In 1 Timothy 2:11–13, Paul writes: “A woman must quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness. But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet. For it was Adam who was first created, and then Eve.” (LSB)
This is the verse that tends to make people squirm. And the most common rebuttal you’ll hear is: “That was cultural. Paul was writing to a specific audience in Ephesus. It doesn’t apply today.”
Here’s the problem with that argument: Paul doesn’t anchor his instruction in Ephesian culture. He anchors it in creation order. “For it was Adam who was first created, and then Eve.” That’s not a cultural argument. That’s a theological argument rooted in Genesis 1 and 2, which predates every culture. When someone says the passage was “descriptive, not prescriptive,” they have to reckon with the fact that Paul himself didn’t treat it that way. He grounded his instruction in the order of creation; not in the customs of first-century Ephesus.
Titus 1:5-9 reinforces this from a different angle. Paul instructs Titus to appoint elders in every city, and the qualifications listed assume a male officeholder throughout: “the husband of one wife,” “managing his own household well,” a man whose life is marked by specific character qualities. This isn’t an accident of grammar. It is consistent with the same theology Paul lays out in 1 Timothy.
1 Corinthians 14:34-35 adds another layer: “The women are to keep silent in the churches; for they are not permitted to speak, but are to subject themselves, just as the Law also says. If they desire to learn anything, let them ask their own husbands at home; for it is improper for a woman to speak in church.” (LSB) This passage has its own interpretive complexities, but taken alongside the 1 Timothy and Titus texts, a consistent picture emerges: the authoritative teaching office in the local church is reserved for qualified men.
One more thing that tends to come up quickly in this conversation: head coverings. The argument goes something like this: “If you’re going to take the ‘women be silent’ passages literally, then you also have to require women to wear head coverings. And since nobody does that anymore, clearly these passages were all cultural. You can’t have it both ways.” It sounds like a solid gotcha. But it falls apart when you look at how Paul actually argues in each passage.
The head covering instruction in 1 Corinthians 11:2-16 is rooted in the honor and shame dynamics of the Greco-Roman world. An uncovered head carried a specific social meaning in that culture—one associated with disrepute. Paul’s concern is that Christian women not bring shame on themselves or on the gathered body through a culturally loaded signal. The principle he is protecting is timeless (honor, order, the proper reflection of God’s glory in worship). The specific practice he prescribes is culturally situated. Paul even signals some flexibility at the end of the passage in verse 16. So when the church applies the principle of head coverings today without mandating the exact first-century practice, that is actually consistent and careful interpretation; not inconsistency.
The passages about women and teaching authority are doing something entirely different. Paul does not ground his instruction in Greco-Roman custom. He grounds it in creation order: “For it was Adam who was first created, and then Eve” (1 Timothy 2:13, LSB). That argument reaches back to Genesis 1 and 2, before any human culture existed. When Paul roots a command in creation rather than in cultural context, he is telling us this principle transcends time and place. The two passages are not parallel in kind, which means the “you can’t have it both ways” argument actually backfires. We are not being inconsistent. We are doing exactly what good hermeneutics requires—paying attention to how Paul himself argues, not just what he concludes.
Now, before you picture women sitting stone-faced and mute in the pew while their husbands field all questions—that is not what this passage is saying, and it is not what is happening in healthy complementarian churches today. The context Paul is addressing is the gathered worship service: the public, authoritative elements of corporate worship where scripture is taught and the congregation is led. Women are not to occupy that teaching role. They are not to be the ones preaching, leading the congregation in prayer from the front, or doing the work of expounding and applying God’s Word to the body. And yes, that extends to elements of the service that carry an authoritative, shepherding function—a call to worship, an offertory prayer, a scripture reading with commentary. Those roles belong to the men who lead the congregation.
What it does not mean is that a woman cannot open her mouth for the rest of her life inside a church building. After the service? Talk to your friends, your pastor, your fellow members—chat it up. Ask your pastor a question on the way out. Participate in a Sunday school class discussion. Sing with everything you have. The passage is about the authoritative teaching function within the gathered worship service, not about women going silent the moment they walk through the door.
One more thing worth addressing: Paul’s instruction to “ask their own husbands at home” was a specific correction to a disorder in the Corinthian church—women were likely interrupting the teaching time with questions or challenges, creating confusion in the service. It was not a universal command that single women must funnel every theological question through a male relative. The principle is orderliness in worship and the proper placement of teaching authority; not a speech restriction on women as a category of human beings.
But What About…? (The Gotcha Questions)
I want to talk about a conversation I had with a former pastor. He was making the case that women in pastoral roles was biblically defensible, and he threw two arguments at me that I wasn’t prepared for in the moment.
The first was the lone missionary scenario. He described a woman missionary serving in a remote area where she was the only Christian—preaching the gospel to the people around her—and asked me, almost dramatically: “So what would God say about that? Is she disqualified?”
It felt like a trap. And at the time, all I could say was, “I just know what scripture says.”
Now I have a better answer. The passages in question—1 Timothy 2, Titus 1—are not addressing whether a woman can share the gospel with an unbeliever. They are addressing church office and authoritative teaching within the local church body. A woman faithfully proclaiming Christ to people who have never heard His name is not the same thing as a woman serving as pastor or elder over a congregation of believers. These are categorically different situations, and conflating them is an emotional argument, not an exegetical one. The question “is she disqualified?” is a false dilemma. The answer is: she is doing something the New Testament passages about church office were never addressing in the first place.
The second argument he raised was Philip’s daughters. He mentioned them with some weight, as if they were a trump card: “What about Philip’s daughters? They prophesied.” (Acts 21:9)
Yes, they did. Philip the Evangelist had four daughters who prophesied. But here is what scripture does not say about them: it does not say they pastored a church. It does not say they held authority over men in a congregation. It does not present their example as prescriptive for all women in all churches. Prophecy and the pastoral office are not the same thing. Even for someone who holds a continuationist view of spiritual gifts, the argument still doesn’t land because nowhere does the New Testament present the gift of prophecy as equivalent to the office of elder or pastor. You cannot use Acts 21:9 to overturn 1 Timothy 2:12 and Titus 1:5-9. That’s not how hermeneutics works. You let the clear, prescriptive texts govern how you interpret the narrative ones.
(A quick note: Deborah comes up in these conversations too, and she deserves a careful, thorough response—more than I can give her here. I’ll be doing a full post on Deborah soon, because she is genuinely the most complex figure in this conversation and she is worth doing right.)
What About Deaconesses?
This is where complementarians sometimes disagree with each other, and I want to be honest about that.
Romans 16:1 refers to Phoebe as a diakonos—the same Greek word translated “deacon” elsewhere. 1 Timothy 3:11 mentions women in the context of the deacon qualifications, though there is debate about whether Paul means deacons’ wives or women serving as deaconesses. What is clear is that the office of deacon is distinct from the office of elder/pastor, and the authority structure is different. Many thoughtful complementarian churches make room for women to serve in diaconal roles—serving, caring for the congregation, administering mercy ministries—without that constituting the teaching authority reserved for elders. It is worth studying with your own church leadership and examining the texts carefully.
This Is Not a Lesser Calling
I want to be clear about something, because I know how this conversation can land.
Complementarianism is not the belief that women are less intelligent, less spiritually mature, or less valuable than men. It is not a punishment. It is not a ceiling. It is a recognition that God designed men and women differently and assigned different roles within the structure of the local church and that those roles are both essential and good.
We live in a culture that has shouted very loudly for a very long time that equality means sameness. That if women cannot do everything men do, in every arena, then something has been taken from them. That logic has crept into the church in ways that are subtle and in ways that are not subtle at all. And it is easy, I know because I did it, to absorb that framework without realizing it and then go looking for scripture to support a conclusion you’ve already reached.
Titus 2:3-5 paints a picture of older women teaching and training younger women in godliness, in love for their families, in self-control. That is not a consolation prize. That is a calling with profound and lasting impact. Women teaching women, discipling women, shaping the next generation of believers—that work is irreplaceable and the church is weaker when it goes undone.
The song lyrics are wrong, by the way. Anything you can do, I can do better… that’s not the posture scripture calls us to. The posture scripture calls us to is one of trusting that God’s design is good. That His word is sufficient. That when He says something clearly, we don’t need to find a workaround. We need to believe He knew what He was doing.
Standing Firm When It Isn’t Popular
Can women be pastors? The answer scripture gives is no—not in the office of elder/pastor that carries authoritative teaching and governance over the congregation. And I know that answer is not popular. I know there are evangelical churches, many of them, that have decided otherwise. I sat in one of them for years and told myself it was fine.
But here is what I keep coming back to: we cannot compromise the truth of God’s Word because the culture around us has decided it is outdated. We cannot let the discomfort of an unpopular position push us toward a reading of scripture that requires us to flatten Paul’s argument, ignore the creation order anchor, and elevate narrative passages above prescriptive ones.
The same Word that tells us God’s thoughts are higher than our thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9) is the Word that tells us how He has structured His church. We trust one, we trust the other.
If you’re in a church with women pastors and something has been nagging at you—that quiet voice you keep overriding—I’m not here to tell you what to do. But I do want to encourage you to take that voice seriously. Open the text. Read it in context. Let it say what it actually says. And trust that God’s design for His church is not something to be embarrassed about or argued away.
It is something worth standing firm in. Even when it’s hard. Even when it costs you something.
